“I understand what I should do,
but nothing works for long.”
You hear this painful frustration a lot as a personal consultant.
But when Melissa continued on it was like she had seen my past – my own years of being crippled by feeling “fat”.
“You don’t even tell people you’re starting a diet anymore. You’re frightened someone will ask you how it’s coming… And then you feel like crap because you know you won’t follow through.”
God, how true I know that to be.
You don’t want to be talking about mythical changes that never happen.
And it makes you sick thinking about all the time and money you’ve wasted just trying.
“I get so down on myself” I often hear as people trail off into silence.
And it’s disturbing but my clients always feel my response is strange…
“It’s not your fault” I’ll say. And it’s a bold statement because it lacks any sort of condemnation or blame – what you’ve come used to.
Why You’re Like a Car
Some say you lack motivation if you struggle to lose weight.
Like a car with a bad battery. You have no spark and no ignition to get started.
But you know that can’t be true, don’t you?
You’ve had amazing surges of motivation – planning out and starting detailed diets or routines.
So they say you lack willpower if you can’t lose weight.
It’s the fuel for all discipline and they think you just don’t have enough. That you’re tank is always on E.
But you know that can’t be true either.
You work remarkably hard. And you somehow balance family life with everything you do.
You’ve been doing it for years.
But it has to be one or the other, right? Which one should you starting trying to improve?
Getting started isn’t your problem. Having less willpower than others isn’t your problem.
FRICTION is your problem… DRAG… The outside forces causing you to FAIL.
Because by the time you’ve done your most important tasks – all that drag has stolen all your willpower.
So it’s not about how much fuel you start with.
It’s about how you manage the friction.
How you stop it from devastating your fuel reserves.
Because it’s been proven we only have so much willpower in a given day…
After that, forcing yourself to eat right or get to the gym is almost impossible.
Effort & Self-control = Friction & Willpower Fatigue
This ‘willpower fatigue’ is why no informed counselor would ask a recovering drinker to also give up smoking.
So how do you lose weight when you end up on E?
This is where the wildly famous book, “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” comes into play.
The First Habit, ‘Being Proactive’, is all about taking initiative wisely.
It means only thinking about things in your life you CAN change. NEVER wasting thoughts on the things you CAN’T change.
That was the most eye-opening understanding in my life.
Because I recall being mortified about my weight.
At USC researching behavioral change yet I was helpless – stuck feeling fat.
Classes were hard, I worked nights and still tried to visit my family… My tank was always on E.
I knew I couldn’t conjure up more willpower to lose weight – it was just a fact of life.
So I swore to never waste time or thought on things I COULDN’T change.
And I stopped setting weight loss goals for this very reason.
Crazy thing is: that was 18 months and 57 pounds ago.
I stopped attempting to count calories because I realized how unrealistic it was.
Instead, I took one effortless step and saw an amazing change in my life.
So I want to share that step with you today and I want you to take it RIGHT NOW, because you really can…
Taking the Step
18 months ago, I peered across my kitchen to see the two foods I had the hardest time saying “no” to.
So, I grabbed them both.
**Go do this right now**
My two items were a half gallon of ice cream and a jar of Nutella. (What are yours?)
Now, I want you to physically hold them in your hands.
Look straight down at them and understand the thought “This is Friction.”
Don’t just think it. Be purposeful about it.
Take a minute to actively imagine these colossal anchors dragging behind you.
Skipping and skidding across the pavement – your fuel gauge visibly draining.
**Do this for about 2 minutes**
Then, march right outside and heave those willpower-vampires in with the garbage. The more dramatic and exaggerated the better.
You’ll want to remember that simple choice distinctly.
Not like all those complex plans you started but never finished.
Those moments were a dime a dozen, after all. This is something different.
You must etch out a clear mental image of that moment.
Symbolism is an awe-inspiring tool, after all.
Your moment should be your symbol for a wonderful life change – a slow and steady start.
A small victory toward weight loss but one that will make you feel remarkable.
And that’s the beauty of this quick friction killer…
It’s SO effortless that you really have no excuse not to try it.
I’ve set the bar so low for you that you should be embarrassed not to step across it.
You shouldn’t need some legendary surge of motivation to get going toward the body you want.
You’ve had plenty of those already, haven’t you?
Just start simply.
Leave a comment below or email me personally about the two anchors you chose to ditch. I’d love to hear it and doing so will help you keep that friction out of your life!
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